We hear you. Life is busy. And still, we firmly believe a strong emotional connection with your partner is important. That's why we created Dear Butterflies in the first place. Each exercise takes max 7 minutes. Not 30 minutes. Not 1 hour. Here in the words of one of our clients: ⁠"The best part is it's less than 10 minutes. If it were half an hour, it wouldn't happen. Five to eight minutes is perfect." That said: Just like with any other healthy habit, doing the exercises regularly—perhaps a few times a week—helps you reconnect and strengthen your relationship. Consistency brings lasting benefits like improved communication, renewed intimacy, and a deeper emotional connection. We'll send you a couple of reminders in the first weeks.

Connection usually is initiated by one person in the relationship - sometimes the other person is not even aware of an issue. Our guided practices are done together, which means both partners need to be on board. Even if your partner is hesitant at first, perhaps you can get her/him to give it try at least one or two exercises. Most couples find that once they start, it becomes a comforting and enjoyable way to spend quality time together.

Couples who use Dear Butterflies regularly report feeling more connected quickly, communicating better, and experiencing a deeper emotional bond. Many couples find that these small moments build up over time to create lasting intimacy and joy in their relationship.

These practices are rooted in scientifically backed techniques that help couples build connection and emotional intimacy through simple, guided steps. Here’s how they work: 1. Mindfulness and Presence: Each session is designed to bring you and your partner fully into the present moment. Research shows that practicing mindfulness together can deepen emotional bonds and foster empathy. By focusing on the “here and now,” you become more attuned to each other, reducing stress and allowing authentic connection to emerge. 2. Guided Breathwork: Many of the practices incorporate intentional breathing exercises. Breathwork helps regulate the nervous system, reducing stress and anxiety. This state of calm makes it easier to connect with your partner on a deeper level, as both partners feel more relaxed, safe, and open. 3. Emotional Attunement: These sessions also guide you to notice and respond to each other’s emotions. In relationship psychology, this process is known as “emotional attunement,” where couples learn to be aware of each other’s needs and respond with understanding. Research suggests that emotional attunement strengthens trust and intimacy, leading to a more resilient partnership. 4. Guided Reflection and Positive Reinforcement: The practices often include moments for reflection and appreciation, helping each partner recognize and reinforce positive qualities in one another. Studies show that positive reinforcement builds a strong emotional foundation, helping couples feel valued and supported. Together, these techniques provide a powerful yet accessible way to reconnect and nurture your bond. Each session is crafted to be simple and enjoyable, so you can integrate it into your life without extra effort, feeling closer with each use. Reach out to us and we'll happily provide you with more information.

Rather than focusing on physical intimacy, these practices foster emotional intimacy—helping you both feel safe, seen, and valued. Many couples find that as they reconnect emotionally, physical closeness can become a more natural and welcome part of the relationship. However, these practices respect wherever you are in your journey and don’t push for anything beyond what feels right for you.

While relationship therapy or coaching is an effective way to improve a relationship, the time spent with a therapist/coach is rarely enough. To really make a difference, the couple has to put in extra effort besides going to the joint sessions. Dear Butterfly practices can certainly complement and enhance the results achieved with coaching, therapy, and couples therapy exercises. That said, if deep traumas are present, any form of closeness and connection can be triggering. In that case it's best to discuss with your therapist.

Dear Butterflies practices are best done physically together. However, they’re designed to deepen connection quickly, which is especially helpful for couples in long-distance relationships. Often, reconnecting fully after being apart takes time and can feel a bit distant at first. These practices help accelerate that re-connection process, allowing you both to feel more at ease and deeply connected from the start. When you’re finally together, you’ll be able to make the most of your time, fostering a more present and meaningful experience.

While our practices are more focused on joint experience without words, rather than communication, they naturally invite couples to share their experience with each other. That said, our Check-In exercise is specifically designed to initiate communication: It helps you understand each other’s thoughts and feelings better, strengthening your emotional bond and improving overall relationship communication.

Yes, our guided experiences are very similar to couples therapy exercises that you can do at home. They offer an inexpensive couples therapy alternative, focusing on trust exercises for couples and enhancing emotional intimacy. That said, couples therapy exercises often also focus on "communication". The essential connection pack is purposefully designed to focus more on each person's experience - that can then be communicated, or not.

These activities focus on building trust, enhancing communication skills for couples, and fostering emotional awareness. Note they are designed to feel safe, focusing on emotional intimacy, without the need for physical intimacy.

In the words of bell hooks: “Love is an action, never simply a feeling.” And our guided practices help you take action. They focus on rekindling emotional intimacy and connection. By dedicating time to understand and appreciate each other, you may find yourself falling in love with your husband again, deepening your relationship.

Absolutely! Our guided meditations make for perfect at-home date ideas, and you can listen to more than one practice in one go. They provide a fun and meaningful way to spend quality time together, allowing you to connect deeply without the need for a couples getaway or visiting romantic places.